In sexuality, it's never only me and my partner, or more partners, whatever you are doing....

Slavoj Zizek:
In sexuality, it's never only me and my partner, or more partners, whatever you are doing. It's always... There has to be always some fantasmatic element. There has to be some third imagined element which makes it possible for me, which enables me, to engage in sexuality. If I may be a little bit impertinent and relate to and unfortunate experience, probably known to most of us, how it happens that while one is engages in sexual activity, all of a sudden one feels stupid. One loses contact with it. As if, 'My God, what am I doing here, doing these stupid repetitive movements?' And so on and so on. Nothing changes in reality, in these strange moments where I, as it were, disconnect. It's just that I lose the fantasmatic support