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I'd like to tell you it gets easierIt doesn'tIf there's any comfort it'sgetting used to the pain I supposeWent to a grief seminar in CasperDid you know thatI don't know whyJust wanted the bad to go

I'd like to tell you it gets easier. it doesn't. If there's any... comfort, it's......

Wind River • 2017

Cory Lambert:
I'd like to tell you it gets easier. it doesn't. If there's any... comfort, it's... getting used to the pain, I suppose. Went to a grief seminar in Casper. Did you know that? I don't know why. Just wanted the bad to go away. Wanted answers... to questions that couldn't be answered. The counselor come up to me after the seminar and sat down next to me. And he said something that stuck with me. I don't know if it's what he said, or how he said it. He says, "I got some good news, and I got some bad news. Bad news is you're never gonna be the same. You're never gonna be whole, not ever again. You lost your daughter. Nothing's ever going to replace that. Now the good news is, as soon as you accept that, and you let yourself suffer... you allow yourself to visit her in your mind, and you'll remember all the love she gave you, all the joy she knew." Point is, Martin, you can't steer from the pain. If you do, you'll rob yourself... You'll rob yourself of every memory of her. Every last one. From her first step to her last smile. Kill 'em all. Just take the pain, Martin. You hear me? You take it. It's the only way you'll keep her with you

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I'd like to tell you it gets easier

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It doesn't

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If there's any comfort it's

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getting used to the pain I suppose

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Went to a grief seminar in Casper

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Did you know that

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I don't know why

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Just wanted the bad to go away

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Wanted answers to questions that couldn't be answered

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The counselor came up to me after the seminar

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and sat down next to me

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And he said something that stuck with me

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I don't know if it's what he said

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or it's how he said it

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He says I got some good news and I got some bad news

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Bad news is you're never gonna be the same

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You're never gonna be whole not ever again

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You lost your daughter

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Nothing's ever going to replace that

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Now the good news is as soon as you accept that

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and you let yourself suffer

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you allow yourself to visit her in your mind

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and you'll remember all the love she gave

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all the joy she knew

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Point is Martin you can't steer from the pain

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If you do you'll rob yourself

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you'll rob yourself of every memory of her

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Every last one

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From her first step to her last smile

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Kill 'em all

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Just take the pain Martin You hear me

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You take it

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It's the only way you'll keep her with you

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أرغب أن أقول لك إن الأمر يصبح أسهل

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ولكنه لا يصبح كذلك

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إن كان هناك أي عزاء فهو الاعتياد على الألم كما أظن

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حضرت حلقة بحث عن الحزن في كاسبر هل كنت تعرف هذا

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لم أعرف لماذا فعلت ذلك

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ولكنني أردت أن يرحل الألم بعيدا

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أردت أجوبة عن الأسئلة التي لا يمكن الإجابة عنها

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تقدم إلي المحاضر بعد حلقة البحث وجلس قربي

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وقال لي شيئا بقي عالقا في ذهني

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لا أعرف إن كان ما قاله أم الطريقة التي قاله بها

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قال لدي أخبار جيدة ولدي أخبار سيئة

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الأخبار السيئة أنك لن تعود كما كنت أبدا لن تعود كاملا مطلقا

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فقدت ابنتك ولن يعوض أي شيء عن هذا أبدا

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وأما الخبر الجيد فهو أنك حالما تتقبل الأمر

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ستسمح لنفسك بأن تعاني

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وتسمح لنفسك أن تزورها في عقلك

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ستذكر كل الحب الذي قدمته لك وكل الفرح الذي عرفته

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أقصد يا مارتن هو أنك لن تهرب من الألم

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إن فعلت ذلك ستحرم نفسك

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ستحرم نفسك كل ذكرى لها

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كل ذكرى

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من أول خطوة لها وحتى آخر ابتسامة

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ستقتلها جميعا

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تقبل الألم يا مارتن هل تسمعني تقبله

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إنها الطريقة الوحيدة لتبقيها قريبة منك

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Jeg ville gerne kunne sige at det bliver lettere

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Det gør det ikke

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Hvis man kan tale om en trøst

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så ligger den i at man vænner sig til smerten

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Jeg tog til et sorgseminar i Casper

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Vidste du godt det

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Jeg ved ikke hvorfor

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Jeg ville bare have smerten væk

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Jeg ville have svar på spørgsmål der ingen svar var til

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Sorgrådgiveren satte sig ned ved siden af mig bagefter

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Han sagde noget jeg aldrig vil glemme

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Jeg ved ikke om det var det han sagde

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eller måden han sagde det på

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Han sagde Jeg har godt og dårligt nyt

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Det dårlige er at du aldrig bliver den samme igen

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Du vil aldrig mere føle dig hel

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Du har mistet din datter og intet kan erstatte hende

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Det gode er at hvis du accepterer det og tager lidelsen ind

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så tillader du dig selv at besøge hende i dit sind

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Så husker du al hendes kærlighed

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Al den glæde hun følte

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Pointen er Martin at man ikke kan styre uden om smerten

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Hvis du gør det fratager du dig selv

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Så fratager du dig selv alle minder om hende

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Hvert eneste minde Fra hendes første skridt

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til hendes sidste smil

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Du dræber dem alle sammen

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Tag smerten ind Martin Hører du Tag smerten ind

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Kun sådan kan du have hende hos dig

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Ik zou graag zeggen dat het slijt

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Dat is niet zo

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Je kunt er alleen troost uit putten

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dat je gewend raakt aan de pijn

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Ik ben naar een training rouwverwerking geweest in Casper

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Wist je dat

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Ik weet niet waarom

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Ik wilde dat rotgevoel kwijt

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Ik zocht antwoorden op vragen waar geen antwoord op was

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De therapeut kwam na afloop naar me toe en ging naast me zitten

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Hij zei iets wat me is bijgebleven

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Ik weet niet of dat aan de boodschap lag

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of aan de manier waarop hij het zei

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Hij zei Ik heb goed nieuws en slecht nieuws

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Het slechte nieuws Je wordt nooit meer de oude

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Je voelt je nooit meer compleet Dat ben je kwijt

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Je bent je dochter kwijt en daar kan niets voor in de plaats komen

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Het goeie nieuws Als je je erbij neerlegt en toegeeft aan het verdriet

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dan kun je haar in gedachten weer opzoeken

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en dan herinner je je de liefde die ze gegeven heeft

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en de vreugde die ze gekend heeft

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Je kunt de pijn niet uit de weg gaan Martin

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Als je dat doet ontneem je jezelf

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Dan ontneem je jezelf al die herinneringen aan haar

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Van begin tot eind

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Van haar eerste stapje

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tot aan haar laatste glimlach

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Die draai je allemaal de nek om

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Kies voor de pijn Martin Heb je me begrepen

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Kies daarvoor

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Alleen dan kan je haar bij je houden

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Haluaisin sanoa että se helpottaa

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Mutta ei se helpota

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Jonkinlaista lohtua tuo se

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että tuskaan tottuu

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Kävin Casperissa suruseminaarissa

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Tiesitkö

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En tiedä miksi

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Halusin tuskan loppuvan

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Halusin mahdottomia vastauksia

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Seminaarin vetäjä tuli lopuksi juttelemaan minulle

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Hänen sanansa jäivät mieleeni

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En tiedä johtuiko se sanoista

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vai hänen tavastaan puhua

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Hän sanoi Minulla on hyviä ja huonoja uutisia

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Huono uutinen on se ettet ole enää koskaan sama ihminen

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Sinusta ei tule enää ehjää

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Menetit tyttäresi eikä mikään korvaa häntä

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Hyvä uutinen on se että kun hyväksyt tuskan

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annat itsellesi luvan muistella

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Muistat miten hän rakasti

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Miten iloinen hän oli

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Et voi välttää tuskaa Martin

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Jos teet niin kadotat

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Kadotat kaikki muistot hänestä

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Joka ikisen muiston Ensiaskeleesta

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viimeiseen hymyyn

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Kaikki muistot kuolevat

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Hyväksy tuska Martin

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Niin hän pysyy muistoissasi

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J'aimerais dire que ça va passer

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C'est pas le cas

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Le seul

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réconfort c'est

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qu'on s'habitue à la douleur

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Je suis allé à un séminaire sur le chagrin à Casper

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Tu savais ça

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J'ignore pourquoi

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Je ne voulais plus souffrir

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Je voulais des réponses à des questions qui n'en ont pas

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Le conseiller s'est assis à côté de moi à la fin du séminaire

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J'oublierai jamais ce qu'il a dit

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Je ne sais si c'est ce qu'il a dit

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ou comment il l'a dit

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Il a dit qu'il avait une bonne nouvelle et une mauvaise

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La mauvaise était que je ne serais plus pareil

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Que je serais détruit à jamais

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J'avais perdu ma fille

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et rien ne la remplacerait jamais

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La bonne nouvelle étant que si j'acceptais ça

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si j'acceptais ma souffrance

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alors en la retrouvant dans mes souvenirs

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je me souviendrais de l'amour qu'elle avait donné

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de la joie qu'elle avait connu

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On ne peut échapper à la souffrance Martin

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Sinon tu te prives toi même

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Tu te prives de tous tes souvenirs d'elle

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Absolument tous

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De ses premiers pas

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à son dernier sourire

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Tu les anéantis

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Accepte la souffrance

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Tu m'entends Accepte la

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C'est la seule façon de la garder

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Ich würde dir gern sagen dass es leichter wird

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Tut es aber nicht

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Der einzige Trost ist

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dass man sich an den Schmerz gewöhnt

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Ich bin zu einem Trauerseminar in Casper gegangen

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Wusstest du das

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Ich weiß nicht warum

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Ich wollte einfach nicht mehr so leiden

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Ich wollte Antworten auf Fragen die keiner beantworten kann

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Der Trauerberater setzte sich nach dem Seminar neben mich

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Er sagte etwas das mich nicht mehr loslässt

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Vielleicht liegt es daran was er sagte

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oder daran wie er es sagte

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Er sagte Ich habe eine gute und eine schlechte Nachricht

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Die schlechte Du wirst nie wieder derselbe sein

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Du wirst dich nie wieder ganz fühlen

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Du hast deine Tochter verloren

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Und nichts wird sie je ersetzen

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Die gute Nachricht Sobald du das akzeptierst und den Schmerz zulässt

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kannst du sie in Gedanken besuchen

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Dann erinnerst du dich an all die Liebe die sie schenkte

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An all die Freude die sie erlebte

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Der Punkt ist Martin Du kannst den Schmerz nicht umgehen

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Du würdest dich nur selbst berauben

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Du würdest dich jeder Erinnerung an sie berauben

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Jeder einzelnen

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Von ihrem ersten Schritt

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bis zu ihrem letzten Lächeln

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Du würdest sie alle töten

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Nimm den Schmerz an Martin

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Hörst du Nimm ihn an

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Nur so kannst du sie bei dir behalten

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Vorrei dirti che col tempo sarà tutto più facile

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Non è così

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Se esiste una specie di conforto è

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abituarsi al dolore credo

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Sono stato a un seminario sul lutto a Casper Lo sapevi

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Non so perché

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Volevo solo far sparire il dolore

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Volevo trovare delle risposte a domande che non hanno risposte

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Il consulente venne da me dopo il seminario e si sedette vicino a me

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Mi disse una cosa che mi colpì

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Non so se fu per quello che mi disse o per il modo in cui lo disse

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Mi disse Ho una notizia bella e una brutta

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Quella brutta è che non sarai mai più lo stesso

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Non sarai più intero Mai più

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Hai perso tua figlia

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Niente potrà mai prendere il suo posto

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Quella bella è che appena lo accetterai e accetterai la sofferenza

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permetterai a te stesso di vederla nei tuoi ricordi

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Ricorderai tutto il suo amore

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tutta la gioia che aveva

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Il punto Martin è che non puoi scappare dal dolore

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Se lo fai ti priverai da solo

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Ti priverai da solo di ogni suo ricordo

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Dal primo all'ultimo

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Dai suoi primi passi

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al suo ultimo sorriso

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Li ucciderai tutti

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Accetta il dolore Martin

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Mi hai capito Accettalo

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Solo così riuscirai a tenerla con te

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時が癒やすと言うが

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実際は違う

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気休めに過ぎないが

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痛みには慣れる

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一度遺族のセミナーに行った

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知ってたか

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妙だよな

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抜け出したくて

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ありもしない答えを探してたんだ

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あの時カウンセラーに言われた言葉が

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ずっと頭に残ってる

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内容より言い方のせいかもしれないがな

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いい知らせと悪い知らせがある

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悪い知らせは君が

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決して元には戻れないこと

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娘の死を埋められるものなどどこにもない

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いい知らせは事実を受け入れ苦しめば

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娘と心の中で会えること

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娘がくれた愛も喜びも

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覚えていられる

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痛みから逃げちゃダメなんだ

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逃げると失う

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娘との思い出すべてを

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1つ残らずな

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初めての一歩から最後の笑顔まで

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消えちまう

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苦しめマーティン

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とことん悲しむんだ

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共に生きたいなら

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Jeg skulle gjerne sagt at det blir lettere

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Det blir ikke det

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Hvis man kan snakke om en trøst

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så ligger den i at du venner deg til smerten

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Jeg dro på et sorgseminar i Casper

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Visste du det

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Jeg vet ikke hvorfor

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Jeg ville bare få vekk smerten

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Jeg ville ha svar på spørsmål som ikke hadde noen svar

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Rådgiveren satte seg ned hos meg etterpå

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Han sa noe jeg aldri vil glemme

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Jeg vet ikke om det var det han sa

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eller måten han sa det på

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Han sa Jeg har godt og dårlig nytt

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Det dårlige er at du aldri blir den samme igjen

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Du vil aldri mer føle deg hel

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Du har mistet datteren din og ikke noe kan erstatte henne

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Det gode er at når du godtar det og opplever lidelsen

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så tillater du deg selv å besøke henne i tankene

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Da husker du all hennes kjærlighet

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All den gleden hun følte

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Poenget er Martin at man ikke kan styre utenom smerten

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Hvis du gjør det berøver du deg selv

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Da berøver du deg selv alle minnene om henne

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Hvert eneste minne Fra hennes første skritt

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til hennes siste smil

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Du dreper dem alle sammen

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Kjenn smerten Martin Hører du Kjenn smerten

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Bare da kan du ha henne hos deg

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Chciałbym ci powiedzieć że z czasem jest łatwiej

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Ale nie jest

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Jeśli istnieje jakieś pocieszenie

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to takie że przyzwyczajasz się do bólu

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Byłem w Casper na seminarium dla osób w żałobie Wiedziałeś

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Nie wiem po co

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Chciałem żeby ból minął

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Szukałem odpowiedzi na pytania które nie istnieją

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Po spotkaniu podszedł do mnie terapeuta Usiadł obok mnie

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I powiedział coś co utkwiło mi w głowie

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Nie wiem czy przez to co powiedział

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czy jak to zrobił

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Ale mówi tak Mam dla ciebie dobrą i złą wiadomość

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Zła wiadomość jest taka że już nigdy nie będziesz taki jak wcześniej

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Nigdy nie będziesz w pełni sobą Nigdy więcej

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Straciłeś córkę i nic tego nie naprawi

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Dobra wiadomość jest taka że kiedy tylko pozwolisz sobie cierpieć

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pozwolisz sobie odwiedzać ją w myślach

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przypomnisz sobie całą jej miłość i radość

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Nie da się uniknąć bólu

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Jeśli to zrobisz okradniesz samego siebie

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Okradniesz się ze wspomnień o niej

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Wszystkich co do jednego

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Od jej pierwszego kroku

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po ostatni uśmiech

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Zabijesz je wszystkie

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Przyjmij ten ból

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Słyszysz Przyjmij go

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Tylko w ten sposób możesz ją przy sobie zatrzymać

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Queria poder dizer que fica mais fácil

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Mas não fica

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Se existe algum

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conforto

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é se acostumar com a dor eu acho

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Fui a um seminário sobre luto em Casper

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Sabia disso

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Não sei por quê

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Só queria que a dor passasse

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Queria respostas para perguntas que não têm resposta

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O palestrante veio até mim sentou do meu lado

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e falou algo que nunca me esqueci

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Não sei se é por causa do que ele disse

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ou da forma como ele disse

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Ele disse Tenho uma boa e uma má notícia

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A má notícia é que nunca mais será o mesmo

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Você nunca será completo Nunca mais

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Você perdeu sua filha

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Nada a substituirá

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A boa notícia é que assim que aceitar isso

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se permitir sofrer

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você vai se permitir visitá la na sua mente

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E vai se lembrar de todo amor que ela deu

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e da alegria que ela conheceu

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A questão Martin é que não dá para evitar a dor

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Você estaria apenas se privando

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Se privando de todas as lembranças dela

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De todas elas

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Do primeiro passo dela

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até o último sorriso

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Vai matá las

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Aceite a dor Martin

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Ouviu Aceite

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É o único jeito de mantê la com você

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Me gustaría decirte que con el tiempo dolerá menos

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pero no es así

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Si existe algún

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consuelo

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creo que es que te acostumbras al dolor

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Fui a un seminario sobre el pesar

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En Casper

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Lo sabías

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No sé por qué

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solo quería que mi dolor desapareciera

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Quería respuestas a preguntas que no se podían responder

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El consejero se acercó a mí al finalizar y se sentó a un lado

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Me dijo algo que nunca olvidaré

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No sé si fue lo que dijo

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o la forma en que lo dijo

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Dijo te tengo una buena y una mala noticia

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La mala es que nunca serás el mismo

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No te sentirás completo

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nunca más

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Perdiste a tu hija y

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nada ni nadie va a reemplazarla

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La buena es que una vez que lo aceptes

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y te permitas sufrir

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podrás visitarla en tu mente

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Recordarás todo el amor que te brindó

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y toda la alegría que tuvo

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El problema es que no puedes evitar el dolor Martin

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Si lo haces te privarás

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te privarás de todos sus recuerdos

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De todos y cada uno

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Desde sus primeros pasos

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hasta su última sonrisa

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Los matarás

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Solo acepta el dolor Martin

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Me escuchaste Acéptalo

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Es la única manera de mantenerla contigo

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Jag skulle vilja säga att det blir lättare

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Det blir det inte

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Om det finns nån tröst

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så är det att man vänjer sig vid smärtan antar jag

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Jag var på ett sorgeseminarium i Casper

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Visste du det

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Jag vet inte varför

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Jag ville bara få det onda att försvinna

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Jag ville ha svar på frågor som inte kunde besvaras

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Kuratorn kom fram efter seminariet och satte sig bredvid mig

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Och han sa nåt som jag aldrig glömmer

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Jag vet inte om det var vad han sa

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eller hur han sa det

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Han sa Jag har goda och dåliga nyheter

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Den dåliga nyheten är att du aldrig blir dig lik

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Du blir aldrig hel Aldrig nånsin

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Du förlorade din dotter och ingen kan ersätta henne

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Den goda nyheten är att så fort du accepterar det och låter dig lida

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så låter du dig själv besöka henne i dina tankar

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Då minns du all kärlek hon gav

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All glädje som hon kände

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Poängen är Martin att man inte kan väja för smärtan

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Om du gör det så berövar du dig själv

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Då berövar du dig själv alla minnen av henne

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Varenda minne Från hennes första steg

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till hennes sista leende

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Du dödar dem alla

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Ta bara smärtan Martin Hör du vad jag säger Ta den

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Det är enda sättet att ha kvar henne hos dig

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ฉ นอยากบอกนายว าม นจะง ายข น

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แต ไม จร งเลย

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ถ าจะม อะไรท ท าให สบายใจได บ าง

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ก คงเป นการท เราเร มช นก บความเจ บปวด

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ฉ นไปส มมนาเร องความเศร า จากการส ญเส ยท แคสเปอร มา

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ร หร อเปล า

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ฉ นก ไม ร เหม อนก น

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แค อยากให เร องร ายๆ หายไป

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ต องการค าตอบให ค าถามท หาค าตอบไม ได

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ผ ให ค าปร กษามาหาฉ นหล งการส มมนา

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แล วน งลงข างฉ น

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เขาพ ดบางอย างท ต ดอย ในใจฉ น

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ไม ร ว าเป นเพราะส งท เขาพ ด

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หร อเพราะว ธ ท เขาพ ด

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เขาบอกว า ผมม ข าวด และข าวร าย

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ข าวร ายค อค ณจะไม ม ว นเหม อนเด ม

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ค ณจะไม ม ว นร ส กสมบ รณ ไม ม ว นน น

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ค ณเส ยล กสาวไป

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ไม ม อะไรมาแทนท ได

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ข าวด ค อท นท ท ค ณยอมร บได

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และปล อยให ต วเองท กข ทรมาน

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ค ณยอมให ต วเองไปหาเธอในจ นตนาการ

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แล วค ณจะจดจ าม นได ถ งความร กท งหมดท เธอเคยมอบให

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ความส ขท เธอเคยได ม

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มาร ต น ประเด นค อ นายหน จากความเจ บปวดไม ได

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ถ านายท าแบบน น นายจะปล น

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จะปล นความทรงจ าท กอย างเก ยวก บเธอ ไปจากต วเอง

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ท กอย างเลย

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ต งแต ก าวแรกจนถ งรอยย มส ดท ายของเธอ

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จะหายไปหมด

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ทนเจ บไปเถอะ มาร ต น ได ย นไหม

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ทนไว

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ม นเป นทางเด ยวท นายจะเก บเธอไว ได

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Duration

155 seconds

Views

4,236

Timestamp in Movie

00:33:14

Uploaded

Feb 28, 2026

Genres

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Movie Summary

A veteran hunter helps an FBI agent investigate the murder of a young woman on a Wyoming Native American reservation.

Actors

Cory Lambert